Your suffering is not a gift
To varying degrees we all experience challenges throughout our life. For me it has been fertility challenges.
I want to be clear, the challenges we face are not gifts. To think or suggest that they are is to minimise the suffering and pain they may cause.
They are givens.
They happened and as long as you are out there living your life they will most likely continue to happen. We can't change that.
While not gifts, these challenges hold the potential to awaken us further.
Without denying the emotion or feelings you might like to say to yourself "may this experience serve as an opportunity for further awakening and growth"
Trust, listen, be open, be present, be compassionate, take it easy but be willing to awaken and grow from the experience.